Movies As A First Date

Going on a movie for a first date is almost a no-brainer. It will not put you into any dreamy romantic category as the guy who gave me the coolest and most unique date ever, but on the other hand, it is sort of expected, and usually a pretty safe bet. Certainly it is less stressful to you than say – asking her to go sky diving, or zip lining, or some other off the wall thing.

Movies stifle conversation while they are playing, which can be a mixed blessing to both of you. The pressure to keep the conversation moving is reduced, so you can both relax a bit more and just get used to being near each other. When the movie is over, it now gives you a mutual topic of conversation, especially if the movie was mediocre or bad. Truly great movies are hard to have a stimulating conversation about until you have had a few hours to reflect on them. If you see a classic great movie together, however, it can be talked about because both of you have seen it before and have already reflected somewhat. Interestingly enough, the worse the movie is, the more it will stimulate conversation.

After selecting the movie to see, you will likely what some sort of snack and refreshment. Although it is hard to do, try to stay away from popcorn and soda pop. Most guys eat popcorn like pigs, and that will not leave a lasting good impression. Soda will make you belch, which is also not a something your date will brag about later. Better to go with a candied treat like M&M's or Smarties. For a drink, consider iced tea or fruit juice. If nothing else, these latter choices will show that you are not an inside the box thinker.

Good Movies

Some movies are great for a first date, while others are not so good. First off, ask her what she likes. If she has her heart set on a particular movie, then you pretty much have to go with that, especially if it is a chick flick. However, if she just has preferred genres of movies, you will have some ability to influence the outcome. Thrillers are okay, but you want a movie that is not just shoot-em-up. James Bond types of movies tend to be a better selection than Bruce Lee types.

Three examples of good first date movies would have been:

1. Comedy –Adam Sandler has an amazing ability to pull off comedy with romantic interest in most of his movies.

2. Drama – Some of the Victor Hugo classics like Les Miserables, The Hunchback of Notre Dame, or Tale of Two Cities. I do not know how he does it, but the movies always seem to have an optimistic and upbeat ending, even while the subject matter is based on tragedy and misery by and large.

3. Romance – Anything by author Nicholas Sparks is usually a safe bet.


That being said, here are some examples of first date movies that would classify as a bad idea:

Bad Movies

The wrong choice of movie will lead to nothing but blue balls and heartache. An hour and a half of unhappiness is not recommended.  These would be examples of BAD choices:

1. Holocaust Movies – The Diary of Anne Frank would be horrible for a first date.

2. Sob Stories – Boys Don’t Cry – I made the mistake of taking a girl on a first date to this film. She just cried all the way home on the subway. Terrible. Great movie though!

3. Adventure  Movies – Conan – Don’t go to any movie where the main actor is shirtless and muscular. Otherwise, you’re risking a comparison where you will not come out on top.


And for god’s sakes, don’t take her to a porn theatre!  Sure, it gets your intentions across, but it’s a little strong for a first date. Watch Taxi Driver to see what happens when you try to pull that one on an unsuspecting young lady. Taxi Driver, by the way, would have been a bad choice for a first date movie.

Good luck! And god willing, she’ll act like Alanis Morrisette did in the theatre 

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Dates For Open-Minded Ladies

Once in a while, the universe will smile on a single man and hook him up with an open-minded and adventurous woman in his dating life. The kind of woman who isn’t “prim and proper”, but rather, one who is interesting and kinky.  For this type of lady, you have to take her somewhere crazy, or somewhere to excite her. Here are some ideas to get you thinking outside of the box so that you can end up inside the best sort of box on a regular basis!

Stripper Club

Find out if your women digs seeing nude women. If so, then some sort of stripper bar is a good place for an evening out. This is especially true if your girl is bi-sexual. If her tongue is hanging out, consider buying her a lap dance! I have noticed that guys who bring dates to the strip clubs get more attention from the strippers. They like the fact that a woman is there to see the “dancing”. 

A Trip To Your Local Sex Shop

Going to a Sex Store is an interesting way to pass a rainy afternoon. Lots of fun stuff to explore, and if nothing else, get giddy over. Relaxing your normal inhibitions a bit by having a couple of drinks before going never hurts. It takes the pressure off, and just makes things a bit more fun. Then you can walk through the aisles and find out what makes her blush. If you see something sexy, tell her you would like to buy it for her. Ask her if there is anything that she wants to get for you? You can’t lose at the adult shop. Be aware that quality sex toys and outfits can put a serious dent in the pocket book. But if there’s anything that is worth the dough, it’s a sex toy!

Role Playing

A fun and kinky date is one in which you pretend to be strangers that meet at the bar, and then you seduce each other using your different persona. Act like you don’t know each other and meet at a hotel bar. Buy her a drink and start chatting her up. Watch the bartender get more and more impressed the more and more she seems to be interested in you. Then, rent one of the rooms in the hotel and get the sheets dirty, if you know what I mean. She can play “Nurse Naughty”, “Sex Teacher”, “Marion the Librarian”, almost anything.

The best way to pick the role to play is to write them all down on separate pieces of paper, and then pick them out of a hat or something.


S&M Parlor

For a real change of pace, consider Bondage. It requires that you fully trust your partner, and that may actually add to your relationship. Lots of people like the bondage and domination part of it. Saddo is not everyone's cup of tea..  Most BDSM is just a show, and not usually painful, so do not be turned off by it.  Do not be afraid to go just because you have never done it before. Most BDSM parlors will help newbies so that they will become regular clientele.



Well, that should get you started. In the off season, most Halloween shops have  sexy costumes to rent as well, so you do not have to have a huge closet full of clothes Look around and see if you can find fetish parties, murder mystery parties, or even sex theme hotel rooms. Just remember to keep the KINK in and have fun!

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Singles Chat Line

What is a chat line? Well, they are services that make it possible for people to communicate with one another by telephone. Some services will allow you to chat with several people at once. There are also online chat services that allow you to connect with other people from around the world through the Internet. Most of these chat line services are for people looking for friendship, relationships, and even sex. Although phone chat lines have been around for over 20 years, they are starting to become more popular again. It can be a little confusing deciding which service to use, so choose carefully.

                                        Phone Chat

Chat services are incredibly easy. Just pick up your phone, call the number, and chat. The first time in you will have to record a personal verbal profile of yourself, but that is not asked for on subsequent visits.

What is so popular about phone chat? Well here are a few reason's:

1) Chat lines are just so low tech. No expensive computer to buy. Simply pick up your phone, dial a number, and start talking. Anyone can do that..
2) You can review other peoples verbal profiles and get a feel for how interesting a person might be before ever wasting your time contacting them. You can also record you own little personal ad.
3) Chat services are mostly local in nature because that is where they are most effective. This makes it easier for you to find someone close to you. This is not always easy to do these days, people just don't have the time on their hands they used to have so phone chat lines are very convenient. This is why so many people prefer them.
4) Phone Chat is just so much more natural a medium to interact with someone on. Especially when they are interesting and you have something in common. It is just so easy to interact that the technology does not get in your way, and at the same time it is just so much easier to hear if someone is lying to you when you discuss things verbally. This fact really helps when it is time to decide whether you want to meet them in person or not.
5) With phone chat lines you don't have to give out your name you can be completely anonymous keeping yourself safe from weirdos and kooks while enjoying yourself and having fun in the process.
6) With phone chat lines you can send as well as receive messages from people  who are also members so it becomes much easier to communicate with people you are interested in.

As long as we still use phones to communicate there will always be chat lines available for you to meet someone new and special with, or just to talk and share some humorous anecdotes with – you never have to be lonely again .



                                   Online Video Chat

Online chatting has been considered a tremendous success when it comes to starting a long term friendship or relationship. Everyday more people are turning to the Internet to find  other people like themselves also looking for that special somebody, someone who shares  the same passions, interests and goals. Some are very much interested in finding their life partner and chatting is a good way to break the ice and is seen as a good starting point. Over the years many adults have found genuine loving relationships that actually lead to happy marriages, most of these happy endings were started by the simple act of chatting.
There are several advantages to online chat such as:

1) You can be completely anonymous and feel safe knowing that you only give out as much info about yourself as you want.
2) You have the possibility of connecting with just about any person of the opposite sex anywhere in the world.
3) If you're gay or lesbian its nice to know that there are hundreds of chatting sites you can use to connect to other gays and lesbians seeking someone to share your life with.
4) You can connect solely with people who have the same interests and passions as yourself.
5) You can also learn about other country’s and cultures by chatting with people online from other parts of the world. You also have the opportunity to exchange photo's and even recipes from other country’s, think of the possibilities, there have been a lot of long term relationships made by people from other country's who met on an online chat site.
6) Online chat lines have such a wide appeal for not only singles but seniors, married couples, adults, christian singles, lesbians, gays the list goes on. You can use online chat lines to connect to long lost friends as well as family members you may have lost contact with over the years, the possibilities are absolutely endless.
7) With online chat you don't necessarily have to be looking or a relationship with someone, you can use online chat to meet and start long term friendships with people in your own town or from around the world.

Online Chat as well as Phone Chat also have their disadvantages, these are a few things to remember when using either one.

1) People can hide their true identity.
2) People can lie about their marital status.
3) People can be dishonest about their age and sex.
4) People can hide their true character.
5) People can hide their true intentions.
6) People can also hide and lie about their criminal background.
7) People online can be a sexual predator so be careful before meeting

Never the less, using reasonable caution, you will find phone chatting a lot less risky than talking to someone in a bar. So now that you know the risks and rewards of online chatting, you are likely ready to try it out. Please find below a link to a site that lists chat sites. It is a great place to find superior chat services.

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If A Movie Is Your First Date

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Primarily, the movie date is great because the responsibility of maintaining conversation is significantly reduced, and you’re free to just be near each other. You can use your peripherals to check her out and her reactions without staring. The movie itself will help to stimulate conversation after the movie is over, and give you something to do before you take her home. The worse the movie is, the better, in a way, because you can both mock it into the wee hours of the night.

Once you are at the movie, your next problem is what to buy for treats. A movie stalwart is popcorn, but is that the best choice? It has the advantage of being inexpensive, but the disadvantage is the propensity for it to stick in your teeth. Also, if your date wears dentures, then popcorn is a no-no. Consider chocolate candy like M&M's. Most women and most men like chocolate. For drinks, try to stay away from anything that is gassy or fizzy like soda pop because they will make you belch and that is not going to leave a favorable lasting impression. Most theaters will offer various types of non-carbonated beverages. One favorite is iced tea. No matter what your final decision is, remember that if you intend to also go out after the movie, then you might want to limit your eating while at the theater.

Good Movies

Even within a genre, there are good and bad choices. You are looking for something that mixes romance into the plot line, so selection is important. Hopefully you are taking her to a Cineplex type of theater that gives you a lot of on the spot choices. This means that before the date, you should have done some research into what movies are playing at the venue where you are taking her. Be prepared!

Three examples of good first date movies would have been:

1. Comedy –Adam Sandler has an amazing ability to pull off comedy with romantic interest in most of his movies.

2. Drama – Tom Hanks usually puts in a good performance with usually tasteful plot lines.

3. Romance – Anything by author Nicholas Sparks is usually a safe bet.


That being said, here are some examples of first date movies that would classify as a bad idea:

Bad Movies

The wrong choice of movie will lead to nothing but blue balls and heartache. An hour and a half of unhappiness is not recommended.  These would be examples of BAD choices:

1. Holocaust Movies – The Diary of Anne Frank would be horrible for a first date.

2. Sob Stories – Boys Don’t Cry – I made the mistake of taking a girl on a first date to this film. She just cried all the way home on the subway. Terrible. Great movie though!

3. Adventure  Movies – Most Bruce Willis adventure movies are just plain bad choices for a first date. Too much blood, guts and gore for the most part.


Stay away from Erotica or Porn! These are just too over the top for a first date and will surely be relationship ending.

Good luck! And god willing, she’ll act like Alanis Morrisette did in the theatre 

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Summer Sex

Even if you are not an outdoorsy kind of person, if you are dating over the course of a summer, you are likely to find yourself and your date communing with good old mother nature at some point. Even if roughing it means a cottage with a deck and boathouse rather than a tent on a backpacking trail, you will likely find many romantic moments as you enjoy the invigorating lift that being out in the country gives you. All that fresh air and all those sunsets are natural sexual invigorators – getting her in the intimate frame of mind, and reminding him about the natural side of being alive. On top of that, with the moon shining at night and millions of stars in the sky, you will likely find yourself braving the elements to go skinny-dipping. Invariably, at some point, the entire concept of outdoors sex will just happen. Sex can be a great thing of course, but there are some cautions that you should take before setting out on such sexual adventures.

Problem: Sex in a Dirty Environment

Outdoor activities expose you to more grime, and with that, more bacteria. Normal outdoor activities like starting a fire, cooking over a campfire, cutting wood, and just the smoke and bug sprays leaves you a much less desirable person to be around from an intimacy point of view. No matter how amorous you might feel, the Hollywood movie version of an idyllic and loving camping trip or nature walk are unlikely to happen unless you take care of basic sanitation necessities. So there are a few recommendations. Wash up thoroughly before bedtime. When roughing it in the bush, take a container of 'wet wipes' with you to help keep yourself sanitary in your nether regions.

Solution: Bath or Sponge Bath Frequently

This is almost a catch 22 issue. In many national parks, or even state level parks, there are usually shower facilities. Of course this does not help you if you are on an overnight trip on a backpacking trail and miles away from a shower. Go during off-peak hours when you’ll have some privacy – waiting until all the kids in the park are in bed is the perfect time to go. If you are around showers, then you can make use of them. Perhaps using them after midnight or very early in the morning would bypass shower queues. Of course if you on a backpack trail, you will need to either bath in a stream, or else mutually sponge bath each other.

Problem:  Privacy

It doesn’t take an acoustics engineer to realize that the millimeter of nylon that comprises your tent wall won’t do much to keep your sex noises private. And since sound travels so well over water, even people on the other side of the lake will be able to hear what you sound like when you’re trying the Inverted Reverse Pile-driver. Even worse, if you’ve gone camping with friends and their kids, there are going to be a lot of questions in the morning about the strange noises they’ve heard.

 Solution: Really Long-g-g Nature Hikes

This is likely the least embarrassing and most satisfying solution. It is really a sort of an intimate commune with nature. But first, you need to think about safety. First, watch out for wildlife – especially lions and tigers and bears – OH MY! – just kidding, but there are some animals that you have to consider depending on your region. Many areas have bears, but in the mountain regions, there are some cats that may cause concern. Most other meat eaters tend to shy away from people, but if you are in the deep south, you can run into reptiles that are not so pleasant. Nothing dampens the libido more than running for your life. Second, don’t go at night – finding your way back in the dark when you’re brain has been scrambled by some hot sex is too difficult. Third, bring a blanket. That way, if you accidentally lay down for the hot times on a fire-ant hill, they’ll have a difficult time getting revenge on you while you’re in the middle of you’re sex. Tell other people in your campsite where you will be.  That way, if you deplete all your bodily fluids during the coitus and can’t make it back, they can send the rangers out to look for you. Just pull up your shorts before they rescue you, for appearances sake.

Good Camping!

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If a relationship involves two Chinese people, they are well aware of Chinese social conventions. However, if one partner is not Chinese, conflicts are inevitable and need to be discussed upfront before they become an issue.

The following are some examples of how Chinese people perceive dating situations differently:

Chinese women are normally taught to be a bit subservient before they are married, and expect the man to initiate everything. In Chinese culture the men still chase the women, and women expect them to lead when it comes to starting a relationship.

When talking to a Chinese woman on a dating site, always be polite and show respect.

Also remember that, in China, health and salary are not considered to be private issues and are expected to be discussed openly and freely.

Most women in China marry at an early age and Chinese men find it a little strange for women to be in their thirty's and still single. Older single women are more likely to jump at a dating opportunity because they are normally shunned by Chinese men to some extent. Women who have been divorced or widowed are often considered invisible on the dating scene and will usually welcome the attention.

In China education is very important and Chinese men and women are usually more interested in the education level and degrees one might possess than most cultures are.

Another very important thing to Chinese women is financial security, they believe that financial status and stability are very important for a healthy stable relationship.

A big majority of Chinese people who have a good command of the English language are usually well educated. Those who are not probably have never had the opportunity to learn, so a little patience will make it a little easier for them to learn, remember patience is a virtue.

Since religion was banned in China under the reign of chairman Mao, many people in China do not have a practicing religion.

China is pretty much a male dominated society, so the man is expected to pay for everything on a date, this includes dinner, movies, theatre, snacks and, if needed, taxis.

Chinese people usually date with the idea of starting a long term relationship. Dating for fun or for casual sex is not normally something that they do.

Many Chinese people will avoid drinking alcohol, so it would be wise not to suggest stopping for a drink on your first date, instead it would be a better idea to suggest lunch or maybe a coffee or tea.

Do not have any expectations of mainland Chinese people showing up for a date on time. It is not in the culture..

Chinese people will show that they like you by offering to help you. You will find that they will feel obligated to help with dishes or even help with small bits of maintenance around the house. It is how they show affection.

Chinese people are more aware of their health than most other cultures. They not only take care of their own health, but they will freely offer advice on yours as well. If you are sick, they will show love and respect by offering to help you out.

Chinese people are not into public displays of affection, to the point that you may not even realize that they are in love with you. They are unlikely to say, “I love you”.

Being more aware of Chinese versus Western cultural norms should help you when interacting with Chinese people in general, but especially so in a dating or relationship situation.

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Summer Sex

Almost everyone who has dated in during the summer months has found themselves in the great outdoors, at some point, communing with nature. Whether that means camping or staying at a cottage, there will be many romantic moments as you enjoy yourself out in 'the wilds'. All the fresh air and sunsets are likely to boost your libido significantly, and get yourself and your partner in a sensual state of mind. On top of that, with the moon shining at night and millions of stars in the sky, you will likely find yourself braving the elements to go skinny-dipping. Invariably, at some point, the entire concept of outdoors sex will just happen. Sex can be a great thing of course, but there are some cautions that you should take before setting out on such sexual adventures.

Problem: Dirty Sex (And Not “Good” Dirty, Either)

Outdoor activities expose you to more grime, and with that, more bacteria. When you start a fire, you’re going to get covered in ash and grime (at least if you do it like I do). Barbecues will inherently get some sauces and juices on you. And then there are the layers of bug spray and sun block you have on your skin. All together, you’re pretty damn gross by the time you head back to your tent for some “private” times. No woman wants to give oral sex to a gross, dirty penis. And no guy enjoys fondling a boob covered in slimy grime. The thrill will fade quickly.

Solution: Bath or Sponge Bath Frequently

There are ways around this pitfall, of course. In many national parks, or even state level parks, there are usually shower facilities. Of course this does not help you if you are on an overnight trip on a backpacking trail and miles away from a shower. Go during off-peak hours when you’ll have some privacy – waiting until all the kids in the park are in bed is the perfect time to go. If you sneak in together, you can have a shower, and then shower sex together (likely though, unless you are in a same sex relationship, one of you will be busting into a facility meant for the opposite sex – maybe three in the morning would be better).

Problem:  Threes a Crowd

It doesn’t take an acoustics engineer to realize that the millimeter of nylon that comprises your tent wall won’t do much to keep your sex noises private. And since sound travels so well over water, even people on the other side of the lake will be able to hear what you sound like when you’re trying the Inverted Reverse Pile-driver. Even worse, if you’ve gone camping with friends and their kids, there are going to be a lot of questions in the morning about the strange noises they’ve heard.

 Solution: Long Nature Treks

This is a great strategy, but make sure you are safe while you do it. First, watch out for wildlife – especially lions and tigers and bears – OH MY! – just kidding, but there are some animals that you have to consider depending on your region. Many areas have bears, but in the mountain regions, there are some cats that may cause concern. Most other meat eaters tend to shy away from people, but if you are in the deep south, you can run into reptiles that are not so pleasant. Nothing dampens the libido more than running for your life. Second, do not go on a long sex trek at night. Better to do it during the day, when wildlife is less prevalent, and you can see clearly as you run for you life if some scary animal shows up. Third Bring something to lay on so you do not get sand in your Schlitz. You should also let your camping buddies know where you are going in case you do not come back.  Now they can send the rangers for you in case you get all caught up in your escapades and do not get back in time.

Good Camping!
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