The Weirdest Date Ever

I messaged this girl that I met on Plenty Of Fish and really didn't give it much though when I received no reply.That’s the way it goes sometimes.  But after a couple of weeks went by and I had totally forgotten about her, I saw that she had finally replied and left her phone number. I was a bit surprised however when her email included her phone number. I mean, I had never even communicated with her before. Likely I should have run like a chicken, but since I had not been with anyone steady in a long time, I decided to take a chance and texted her.

This started an avalanche of text messages back and forth for the next few days. We finally decided it was time to meet. Since my car was broken down, she drove over 60 miles in an old heap she borrowed from a friend just to see me. I was quite flattered by that.In person, she seemed to be really nice. Easy to talk to. The fact that she looked pretty hot only added to the pluses. I was a bit surprised when she suggested that I come to her house for the night, but I accepted willingly. As we drove to her house, we snuggled and then started to stroke each other. I had to back off because she started to really get into it at one point and almost went off the road. We got back to her place and started listening to some music while snuggling on the couch.

All of a sudden she she got a few text messages which she answered. On top of this, her phone started to ring non-stop, and she seemed compelled to answer it rather than just turn it off for a while. I started to get very annoyed that she was spending all that time with the phone instead of me. To add insult to injury, when she was not focused on the phone, she started to tell me all about her ex boyfriend and her trials with him! As if I cared! I just sat there pretending to really give a shit, making noises to her like, “uh huh....yea....oh.... that’s too bad”, figuring she probably still had a thing for him. I guess I must have hit the right tone with her, because we ended up in the sack after all, so that was worth the effort. As we were going to sleep she got up and went into her roommate's bedroom to spend the rest of the night. After waiting about 20 minutes for her to come back, I got the idea that she was out for the count and just went to sleep.

I woke up alone and wondering what I was going to do. I decided to get the hell out of dodge as fast as I could. As I opened the bedroom door, I saw her roommate standing there looking at me as if I was something squirmy. I could see a lot of anger in her directed my way. Then it dawned on me. Her roommate had a thing for the girl who had brought me here. Just to tick her off, I decided to delay my departure long enough to have a shower. Unfortunately, the water reeked so bad that I think I was dirtier after the shower than I was before it. Needless to say, I was pissed as I toweled off.

After dressing, I decided to go back to the bedroom and wait for my date to show up. I wanted to find out what was going on. Most importantly, I needed to find out when I could escape from this crazy place. When she finally showed up, she told me that she was in crap up to her eyeballs because she had taken the car yesterday without permission. Apparently her friend's mother was very peeved that she had taken the car the previous day, and that we had to leave now.

When I looked in her eyes, I new that she was on something. Her friend was as well from the look of her. This wild freak of a guy came to drive us to my date's mother's house. The house was set back about a half mile from the road. When we got there, there was a bunch of sorry looking people hanging around. They all looked like they were on something pretty powerful, and from the strange smell around, I guessed that they were actually cooking up a batch of something out back someplace. They were just hanging around in a stupor listening to loud blaring music. It was wild. It was sort of like one of those bad nightmare scenarios that you see in some B grade Hollywood movies. Then I started to think about some scenes from “Deliverance” and really started to freak out.

One of these dudes starts telling me what train I need to take to get back home. The girl and her mother disappear somewhere in the house. After about ten more minutes, that seemed like an hour in this looney bin, we were on our way. The strange guy driving dropped the girl and her mother off at another destination and we continued on.
This guy really freaked me out. He was all in black, had his hair spiked and some of his teeth filed. He looked like Count Dracula and he keep smiling at me showing his fangs. I was ready to have a bowel movement right then and there. I had to clinch my cheeks together as tight as I could and hoped I would get home in one piece. I hoped he had not decided to drive me all the way home, but suddenly we arrived at the train station. I wasted no time getting out of that car.

I had to walk the streets of this backwards town for three hours before the train arrived, and then I didn't have enough money to go all the way. So I got of about an hour from my home and thumbed it the rest of the way. It was cold, it was raining, and I was disgusted, but was so glad to be back in my nice warm, comfortable home.

Plenty Of Fish! Plenty of freaks is more like it as far as I am concerned. From now on I am going to pay for any dating service that I join. The money is a good filter for riffraff. I have learned that some times free is not always the best way to go. And some sites are not always safe because any moron, freak and weirdo can also join, just because it is free.
Not all free dating sites are crappy. I concede that my experience with POF might have been outside the norm. Either way, I decided to cancel my account on POF and go elsewhere.

Once I had made the decision to leave POF, I had another issue to solve. How would I find a replacement site that was actually better. After a lot of searching, I finally found a site that rated a bunch of dating sites. It has been successful for me, so I am passing that on to you. All dating sites have some inherent risk to them, but usually it is a lot less than that of meeting someone in a bar. In any event, if you are reasonably careful, you are unlikely to have any problems. The link below is the one I have used to advantage. I hope it works for you too.

Top 10 Personals

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Dates For Open-Minded Ladies

Once in a while, the universe will smile on a single man and hook him up with an open-minded and adventurous woman in his dating life. The kind of woman who isn’t “prim and proper”, but rather, one who is interesting and kinky.  For this type of lady, you have to take her somewhere crazy, or somewhere to excite her. Here are some ideas to get you thinking outside of the box so that you can end up inside the best sort of box on a regular basis!

Stripper Club

Find out if your women digs seeing nude women. If so, then some sort of stripper bar is a good place for an evening out. This is especially true if your girl is bi-sexual. If her tongue is hanging out, consider buying her a lap dance! I have noticed that guys who bring dates to the strip clubs get more attention from the strippers. They like the fact that a woman is there to see the “dancing”. 

A Trip To Your Local Sex Shop

Going to a Sex Store is an interesting way to pass a rainy afternoon. Lots of fun stuff to explore, and if nothing else, get giddy over. Relaxing your normal inhibitions a bit by having a couple of drinks before going never hurts. It takes the pressure off, and just makes things a bit more fun. Then you can walk through the aisles and find out what makes her blush. If you see something sexy, tell her you would like to buy it for her. Ask her if there is anything that she wants to get for you? You can’t lose at the adult shop. Be aware that quality sex toys and outfits can put a serious dent in the pocket book. But if there’s anything that is worth the dough, it’s a sex toy!

Role Playing

A fun and kinky date is one in which you pretend to be strangers that meet at the bar, and then you seduce each other using your different persona. Act like you don’t know each other and meet at a hotel bar. Buy her a drink and start chatting her up. Watch the bartender get more and more impressed the more and more she seems to be interested in you. Then, rent one of the rooms in the hotel and get the sheets dirty, if you know what I mean. She can play “Nurse Naughty”, “Sex Teacher”, “Marion the Librarian”, almost anything.

The best way to pick the role to play is to write them all down on separate pieces of paper, and then pick them out of a hat or something.


S&M Parlor

For a real change of pace, consider Bondage. It requires that you fully trust your partner, and that may actually add to your relationship. Lots of people like the bondage and domination part of it. Saddo is not everyone's cup of tea..  Most BDSM is just a show, and not usually painful, so do not be turned off by it.  Do not be afraid to go just because you have never done it before. Most BDSM parlors will help newbies so that they will become regular clientele.



Well, that should get you started. In the off season, most Halloween shops have  sexy costumes to rent as well, so you do not have to have a huge closet full of clothes Look around and see if you can find fetish parties, murder mystery parties, or even sex theme hotel rooms. Just remember to keep the KINK in and have fun!

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Singles Chat Line

What is a chat line? Well, they are services that make it possible for people to communicate with one another by telephone. Some services will allow you to chat with several people at once. There are also online chat services that allow you to connect with other people from around the world through the Internet. Most of these chat line services are for people looking for friendship, relationships, and even sex. Although phone chat lines have been around for over 20 years, they are starting to become more popular again. It can be a little confusing deciding which service to use, so choose carefully.

                                        Phone Chat

Chat services are incredibly easy. Just pick up your phone, call the number, and chat. The first time in you will have to record a personal verbal profile of yourself, but that is not asked for on subsequent visits.

What is so popular about phone chat? Well here are a few reason's:

1) Chat lines are just so low tech. No expensive computer to buy. Simply pick up your phone, dial a number, and start talking. Anyone can do that..
2) You can review other peoples verbal profiles and get a feel for how interesting a person might be before ever wasting your time contacting them. You can also record you own little personal ad.
3) Chat services are mostly local in nature because that is where they are most effective. This makes it easier for you to find someone close to you. This is not always easy to do these days, people just don't have the time on their hands they used to have so phone chat lines are very convenient. This is why so many people prefer them.
4) Phone Chat is just so much more natural a medium to interact with someone on. Especially when they are interesting and you have something in common. It is just so easy to interact that the technology does not get in your way, and at the same time it is just so much easier to hear if someone is lying to you when you discuss things verbally. This fact really helps when it is time to decide whether you want to meet them in person or not.
5) With phone chat lines you don't have to give out your name you can be completely anonymous keeping yourself safe from weirdos and kooks while enjoying yourself and having fun in the process.
6) With phone chat lines you can send as well as receive messages from people  who are also members so it becomes much easier to communicate with people you are interested in.

As long as we still use phones to communicate there will always be chat lines available for you to meet someone new and special with, or just to talk and share some humorous anecdotes with – you never have to be lonely again .



                                   Online Video Chat

Online chatting has been considered a tremendous success when it comes to starting a long term friendship or relationship. Everyday more people are turning to the Internet to find  other people like themselves also looking for that special somebody, someone who shares  the same passions, interests and goals. Some are very much interested in finding their life partner and chatting is a good way to break the ice and is seen as a good starting point. Over the years many adults have found genuine loving relationships that actually lead to happy marriages, most of these happy endings were started by the simple act of chatting.
There are several advantages to online chat such as:

1) You can be completely anonymous and feel safe knowing that you only give out as much info about yourself as you want.
2) You have the possibility of connecting with just about any person of the opposite sex anywhere in the world.
3) If you're gay or lesbian its nice to know that there are hundreds of chatting sites you can use to connect to other gays and lesbians seeking someone to share your life with.
4) You can connect solely with people who have the same interests and passions as yourself.
5) You can also learn about other country’s and cultures by chatting with people online from other parts of the world. You also have the opportunity to exchange photo's and even recipes from other country’s, think of the possibilities, there have been a lot of long term relationships made by people from other country's who met on an online chat site.
6) Online chat lines have such a wide appeal for not only singles but seniors, married couples, adults, christian singles, lesbians, gays the list goes on. You can use online chat lines to connect to long lost friends as well as family members you may have lost contact with over the years, the possibilities are absolutely endless.
7) With online chat you don't necessarily have to be looking or a relationship with someone, you can use online chat to meet and start long term friendships with people in your own town or from around the world.

Online Chat as well as Phone Chat also have their disadvantages, these are a few things to remember when using either one.

1) People can hide their true identity.
2) People can lie about their marital status.
3) People can be dishonest about their age and sex.
4) People can hide their true character.
5) People can hide their true intentions.
6) People can also hide and lie about their criminal background.
7) People online can be a sexual predator so be careful before meeting

Never the less, using reasonable caution, you will find phone chatting a lot less risky than talking to someone in a bar. So now that you know the risks and rewards of online chatting, you are likely ready to try it out. Please find below a link to a site that lists chat sites. It is a great place to find superior chat services.

http://www.top100datingpersonals.com/videodating.php

Dating Online Insights

Dating Online Survey Results:

The following is a summary of a study of about 100 or so urban dwellers in how they look for people to date. Online dating may not result in you winning your life partner, but it may be an interesting diversion from all those hard to believe eHarmony.com and Match.com Television ads that try to convince you about how lonely you are during late night movies. 

Resulting Dating Insights
1)     People who date online attempt to put the odds in their favor when trying to find their soul mate. As such, it is not uncommon for someone to join 5 or more different dating sites at the same time. On the same note, they are also more likely to date several people concurrently, trying to keep all of them on the string until they can make a final choice. Kind of like the online world's version of “The Bachelor” or “The Bachelorette”. In any event, you would want to play the field until you find someone that you really bond with. After all, in real life, you are probably meeting a friend of a friend, or at least have had some opportunity to watch them interact with other people at your favorite watering hole. That tends to prescreen the people that you would actually go out with before you make any sort of commitment to one-on-one dating.  In actual fact, in most conventional dating scenes, you are actually doing some multi-tasking on the pre-screening front before you ever interact in the first place. In conventional dating situations, other than blind dates, you have some concept of how a person interacts with others because you usually have a chance to observe them in action from afar. It is one of the reasons why blind dates get such a bad rap, because you do not know what to expect, nor can you prepare yourself. Online dating does allow some interaction, but meeting in person for the first time has more of the hallmarks of a blind date than it does in conventional dating.

2)     Online Dating is much more superficial – pictures and videos are everything – without them you get almost no action, or attention.  And you ladies need not worry, as long as you have a reasonably flattering shot of yourself having fun someplace, you will likely get responses from lots of men.  This is a marketing exercise, not a life story exercise. If you are selling beauty products on television you do not explain each step of the research that lead to the product. Although you might mention the research, you tend to focus on the results, and the benefits. Market yourself in a positive and flattering manner. Whatever you do, do not post a picture of yourself that is taken with your web-cam – the video quality sucks, and you can never show yourself in a socially fun situation with a web cam If you are a woman, just remember that men see and assume – most do not read much, they look and evaluate visually for the most part, so keep the words to a minimum. For men, you must read the words!! Women are strong communicators and they will say what they are looking for, and they will also say what they are definitely not looking for. Be honest about who or what you are, and do not annoy a women with attention of any sort if you are definitely on her “must not be” list.  In any event, for both men and women, keep the profile words short, sweet and to the point. If you are lucky, you will find a person with a really funny and offbeat sense of humor that meshes with your own sense of silliness. Fully employ the anonymous email and chat facilities of the site before attempting to meet in real life. Do not be too verbose in you profile.  Your online profile is a 30 second teaser commercial, not an in depth user manual.

3)     Men without jobs have little or no traction on dating sites that are focused on long-term relationships. In their heads, women are looking for winners, not losers. On the other hand, if you connect to a woman's soul, they will often overlook the fact that you are stock shelves in a grocery store, as long as you come across as trying to better yourself.  Keep your personal financial status out of the conversation if at all possible. If the person keeps insisting on focussing on that particular statistic, they just might be a gold digger

4)     Full figured women are actually not at the disadvantage that they often think they are. As long as you do not have flab's of cellulite hanging several inches under your arms, you likely have a solid chance of getting the favorable attention of most men. If you are not wider than you are tall, then likely you have a pretty good chance of finding someone. In any event, most women will post a profile of themselves at a younger and lighter age, and then proceed to lighten the age load a few years on top of that in their profile.  Men will often lie about their income, but are usually quite truthful about their ages. You will find however, that men almost never tell the full truth about their body weight. Almost all men show themselves as athletic, or average, almost never as overweight in any manner.

5)     You must have contact with a person for love to develop. You cannot really be in love with someone that you have only talked to on a computer. You must meet in person for love to happen.  You either have chemistry with someone, or you do not, there is no kinda click, there is no partial chemistry. You totally fall head over heels in love with someone, or else you settle for something that is less than total love. It is the many little interactions between two people that add up to someone falling in love. The average time between meeting on a dating site and meeting in person is about two to four weeks. If you take longer than that to get up the courage, you will likely miss the boat anyway. So if you are too cautious in online dating, you will most certainly fail.

6)     There is a bit of stigma associated with dating sites. The real problem with online personals sites is that they have had a reputation in the past for being the hangouts of losers and predators. Nothing is further from the truth. Unfortunately, many people refuse to even try online dating because of these factors.  The fact is that over 60 million people in North America have used online dating sites in the last few years, and there are just not that many losers and predators in North America. You are likely at more risk of being stalked on facebook as you are on a modern dating site. Most people who meet and fall in love online do not broadcast how they met to the world at large, so all you hear about is the people who were not successful on dating sites. This leaves a bad negative impression of the online dating industry in the public eye. People will admit that they met in line getting an unemployment check, but they will not admit to meeting online for some reason.

7)    Online dating sites are an extremely powerful social tool that brings people together who would never normally have ever met each other. Since everyone is there for the same reason, and since it is possible to simultaneously be interacting with several people at once, you really do have a much better chance of finding someone that you are truly compatible with for the long term. Online dating is actually the best forum for people to meet when they are just too busy, too tied up, or just not inclined to be wandering around bar hopping or social clubs trying to meet people. Online dating is the wave of the present and future if you want to find successful and interesting people. Do not expect every match presented to be made in heaven. There will still be some off spec people in the barrel, so keep on trying.


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