If a relationship involves two Chinese people, they are well aware of Chinese social conventions. However, if one partner is not Chinese, conflicts are inevitable and need to be discussed upfront before they become an issue.
The following are some examples of how Chinese people perceive dating situations differently:
Chinese women are normally taught to be a bit subservient before they are married, and expect the man to initiate everything. In Chinese culture the men still chase the women, and women expect them to lead when it comes to starting a relationship.
When talking to a Chinese woman on a dating site, always be polite and show respect.
Also remember that, in China, health and salary are not considered to be private issues and are expected to be discussed openly and freely.
Most women in China marry at an early age and Chinese men find it a little strange for women to be in their thirty's and still single. Older single women are more likely to jump at a dating opportunity because they are normally shunned by Chinese men to some extent. Women who have been divorced or widowed are often considered invisible on the dating scene and will usually welcome the attention.
In China education is very important and Chinese men and women are usually more interested in the education level and degrees one might possess than most cultures are.
Another very important thing to Chinese women is financial security, they believe that financial status and stability are very important for a healthy stable relationship.
A big majority of Chinese people who have a good command of the English language are usually well educated. Those who are not probably have never had the opportunity to learn, so a little patience will make it a little easier for them to learn, remember patience is a virtue.
Since religion was banned in China under the reign of chairman Mao, many people in China do not have a practicing religion.
China is pretty much a male dominated society, so the man is expected to pay for everything on a date, this includes dinner, movies, theatre, snacks and, if needed, taxis.
Chinese people usually date with the idea of starting a long term relationship. Dating for fun or for casual sex is not normally something that they do.
Many Chinese people will avoid drinking alcohol, so it would be wise not to suggest stopping for a drink on your first date, instead it would be a better idea to suggest lunch or maybe a coffee or tea.
Do not have any expectations of mainland Chinese people showing up for a date on time. It is not in the culture..
Chinese people will show that they like you by offering to help you. You will find that they will feel obligated to help with dishes or even help with small bits of maintenance around the house. It is how they show affection.
Chinese people are more aware of their health than most other cultures. They not only take care of their own health, but they will freely offer advice on yours as well. If you are sick, they will show love and respect by offering to help you out.
Chinese people are not into public displays of affection, to the point that you may not even realize that they are in love with you. They are unlikely to say, “I love you”.
Being more aware of Chinese versus Western cultural norms should help you when interacting with Chinese people in general, but especially so in a dating or relationship situation.
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