Going on a movie for a first date is almost a no-brainer. It will not put you into any dreamy romantic category as the guy who gave me the coolest and most unique date ever, but on the other hand, it is sort of expected, and usually a pretty safe bet. Certainly it is less stressful to you than say – asking her to go sky diving, or zip lining, or some other off the wall thing.
Movies stifle conversation while they are playing, which can be a mixed blessing to both of you. The pressure to keep the conversation moving is reduced, so you can both relax a bit more and just get used to being near each other. When the movie is over, it now gives you a mutual topic of conversation, especially if the movie was mediocre or bad. Truly great movies are hard to have a stimulating conversation about until you have had a few hours to reflect on them. If you see a classic great movie together, however, it can be talked about because both of you have seen it before and have already reflected somewhat. Interestingly enough, the worse the movie is, the more it will stimulate conversation.
After selecting the movie to see, you will likely what some sort of snack and refreshment. Although it is hard to do, try to stay away from popcorn and soda pop. Most guys eat popcorn like pigs, and that will not leave a lasting good impression. Soda will make you belch, which is also not a something your date will brag about later. Better to go with a candied treat like M&M's or Smarties. For a drink, consider iced tea or fruit juice. If nothing else, these latter choices will show that you are not an inside the box thinker.
Good Movies
Some movies are great for a first date, while others are not so good. First off, ask her what she likes. If she has her heart set on a particular movie, then you pretty much have to go with that, especially if it is a chick flick. However, if she just has preferred genres of movies, you will have some ability to influence the outcome. Thrillers are okay, but you want a movie that is not just shoot-em-up. James Bond types of movies tend to be a better selection than Bruce Lee types.
Three examples of good first date movies would have been:
1. Comedy –Adam Sandler has an amazing ability to pull off comedy with romantic interest in most of his movies.
2. Drama – Some of the Victor Hugo classics like Les Miserables, The Hunchback of Notre Dame, or Tale of Two Cities. I do not know how he does it, but the movies always seem to have an optimistic and upbeat ending, even while the subject matter is based on tragedy and misery by and large.
3. Romance – Anything by author Nicholas Sparks is usually a safe bet.
That being said, here are some examples of first date movies that would classify as a bad idea:
Bad Movies
The wrong choice of movie will lead to nothing but blue balls and heartache. An hour and a half of unhappiness is not recommended. These would be examples of BAD choices:
1. Holocaust Movies – The Diary of Anne Frank would be horrible for a first date.
2. Sob Stories – Boys Don’t Cry – I made the mistake of taking a girl on a first date to this film. She just cried all the way home on the subway. Terrible. Great movie though!
3. Adventure Movies – Conan – Don’t go to any movie where the main actor is shirtless and muscular. Otherwise, you’re risking a comparison where you will not come out on top.
And for god’s sakes, don’t take her to a porn theatre! Sure, it gets your intentions across, but it’s a little strong for a first date. Watch Taxi Driver to see what happens when you try to pull that one on an unsuspecting young lady. Taxi Driver, by the way, would have been a bad choice for a first date movie.
Good luck! And god willing, she’ll act like Alanis Morrisette did in the theatre 
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