When you’re dating a woman, one of the toughest tests you’ll have to pass is the first time you make her dinner. It can be a wonderful intimate experience for both of you to kick back and truly relax. Unfortunately it can also lead to disaster very easily. Here are some simple things that I consider any time that I invite my special someone over, and they are especially important for the first time.
The easiest cop out is to just order in. Pay attention to what she orders on previous dates, and try to build around that when you order in. It has a couple of benefits in that you are not stressed about cooking, and if she does not particularly like it you can blame someone else. Just make sure that you do not promise her home cooked when you invite her. However, if you do feel like you’re a good cook, here are some dos and don’ts:
Menu Do's
Unless your date does not like wine, or does not drink at all, wine is a good choice. It shows sophistication, and at the same time shows her that you can do more than just guzzle beer. Pick something appropriate. A red like a merlot or cabernet sauvignon for red meats, or a white, like pinot grigio, chardonnay, or sauvignon blanc for chicken or fish. And do not cheap out or go too expensive. Something in the $12.00 to $20.00 a bottle range for a dinner date will likely prove sufficient, and will be acceptable even if she has a more educated pallet than you do.
Even if she is not into Japanese sushi or maki, then picking up some simple vegetarian California rolls ahead of time and keeping them in the fridge would be appropriate.
For a main course, serve a dish that you can keep warm in the oven just in case she’s late. If you make a quiche and she gets stuck in traffic, it’ll be ruined. But if it a nice roast or lasagna, you can keep it on low and serve it when she shows.
Ask about any allergies or diet issues she might have – otherwise your dessert might have to wait until you get back from the emergency room. Keep an over the counter anti-histamine around for emergencies. Benedryl is one of the better known. Ask your pharmacist for another appropriate alternative to have on hand as well if benedryl is a problem.
Speaking of, you should keep the meal light – that way if you do have dessert and then want some “adult times”, you won’t be too full of food to really “move it”.
Candles are great to scatter around your digs, as well as on the table for dinner. Nora Jones, or Diana Krall are both among my favorite choices for intimacy music. Better to have a cd of romantic themes available up your sleeve than to have the latest rap, hip-hop or techno music.
Things Not To Do
Stay away from anything that you have not cooked before at least twice successfully. Stay way from meals that are too fussy or require you to be stirring constantly for long periods of time. You are looking for something where either the stove does all the work by itself, or else something that might require fussing but only for a few minutes maximum.
Avoid anything involving garlic and onion unless you buy her an extra toothbrush in a sealed package. Explain that you didn’t buy it expecting her to use it in the morning, but because you might want to do some kissing. She’ll blush.
You do not have to impress her with fancy china, but on the other hand paper plates are a no-no. For a set of inexpensive matching dinnerware and silverware, Wal-Mart is your friend.
Don’t over-spice. It’ll lead to gas problems for both of you, and that’s not romantic.
Desert
Light deserts like sherbet, fruit cups or ice cream are in. Cheesecake and similar heavy deserts are out, even in small portions. You do not want anything that can make either of you feel bloated.
To top of your successful evening, keep several appropriate desert toppings in the fridge just in case. My standards are redi-whip, smuckers caramel syrup, smuckers strawberry syrup, and any good chocolate syrup I can find in the supermarket.
Good luck and bon appetite!
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