Saturday, October 15, 2011

Dating Online – Tips for Success

Online Dating Positives

One of the most amazing things that modern technology has offered to the human race is the entire new way that it is possible to meet someone new. Yes, I am talking about online dating sites. In the hundreds of thousands of years that human beings have been meeting and interacting with each other, there has never been anything that approaches the reach, the utility, and the convenience of online dating.

Up until recently, you were limited to whoever was in your immediate vicinity and social circle. Now, you can meet and woo anyone in the world. Plus, you know from their profiles if they share common interests and sexual proclivities. That saves a ton of time. You don’t want a scuba-diving virgin if you’re looking for a skydiving dominatrix, after all.

Cons to Online Dating

Online dating sites are not foolproof. One problem is that people say what they are looking for, but they really do not know exactly what they want. People are much better at saying what they do not want in a partner than they are in saying what they want. Even so, people will often end up falling for someone who has many characteristics that they say they would not touch with a ten foot pole. On top of all that, online dating sites are the victims of members who exaggerate about themselves a lot, or just plain lie. I mean, you may find that the sexy Christian church-going lady that you have been chatting up is actually a transvestite cross dresser who is into bondage and who makes a living as a call 'girl'! They might have a picture of them in college, and have since changed a lot physically. You just never really know if the person you are interacting with is telling the truth. Be careful! Lots of married men and women troll dating sites looking for some action on the side. So keep your BS detector set to maximum sensitivity.

Another downside is the amount of people you’ll now have access to. It’s both a benefit and curse to have such a wide net to cast when online dating. How do you whittle it down to a few lucky ladies? Keyword search “skydiving” and “dominatrix's” if you’re like me.

Further Online Dating Considerations

First off, choose a user name wisely. Don’t call yourself  Chose something that you can mention in mixed company, or better yet, to your minister. Another gem of advice is to let out your personal details gradually. Do not rush it. Slowly let the other person get to know you, and vise-versa. It’s safer. Use a throw away cell phone to establish verbal correspondence with them before meeting them in person for the first time.

Use a recent picture of yourself, preferably one of two types: having fun with friends (and clearly say which one is you) or one where you are looking thoughtful. You want them to like you for who you are, so present that person from the get-go. However, don’t make the profile picture too sexy. Keep in mind everyone on the dating site will be able to save anything you put up. Never complain about your current situation or your ex. Nobody likes to listen to a complainer. If pressed, admit to making a few mistakes and that you think you have learned from them. Also, make sure that you have more than one person that you are talking to at the same time. So many people stretch the truth in online dating that getting your hopes up on one specific person before you meet them is most likely to end in disappointment. So join several sites, preferably under different online names, and have 4 or 5 people on your active friends list at any one time. It is okay to date more than one person at a time until you are ready to commit. It is expected!

When you finally decide to meet in person, plan the time and venue of your first date carefully. Chose a time to meet early in the day, preferably over a coffee. Nobody expects a coffee date to last a long time, and if you decide it is not going to work out, you do not have to manufacture an excuse to leave. Second, if your date is not over coffee, set your phone alarm to go off a half hour into the date. That way, if it’s not going well, you can jet with an excuse. Lastly, let them know you’re also seeing other people. It is best to be honest, and ask them for the same thing.

If you have picked well, you have a strong chance of achieving instant chemistry, and potentially a lifetime of happiness. Good luck!

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