Good Ways to Break Up

Most relationships end. If they do not end entirely, they usually change from erotic love  (lovers) to fraternal love (just friends). In any event, telling someone that you do not want to be exclusive with them, or you are no longer interested in them sexually can be difficult. You see this idea played out in many movies.

Back to the point of this diatribe; if you are going to be good at getting into many relationships, you have to be just as good at getting out of them. For some reason, people getting into relationships just never figure the odds that you have to get out of most of them. Since the average person now-a-days has about 8 or 9 intimate relationships before settling down, that means that if you have 9 relationships before forming a permanent bond with someone, it means that you had to have ended 8 of them. Putting it mathematically, if R = the number of relationships that you start, then R-1 is the number of relationships that you had to end. OUCH!


Good Break Up Tips

1. Do It Somewhere Private, Preferably Their Place

If it is difficult to do it at their place (which is the best place), then do it in some reasonably quiet place close to their place. The main reason is that they will likely be distraught afterwards and are in no condition to drive. Keeping it in a relatively quiet place will minimize embarrassment, both for them for being jilted, and for you if they make a scene.

2. Do it on Friday

This is best because it gives them time to get used to the idea before having to face the concentration that most jobs require. Relationships are one of the most disruptive things to productivity at work. Productivity goes down when you start a relationship. Productivity takes a tail spin when a relationship is ended. If they are border-line at their job for whatever reason, then the break up can lead to termination, thus adding to your guilt load.

3. Keep It Short And Give Them Space

It is actually less painful to break up if it is done quickly. Keep it short, and do not allow it to drag into hours of trying to defend your decision. If you are breaking up because you have found someone new, do not rub it in their face later by being seen almost immediately in all your old haunts with the new love of your life.


Bad Break Up Don’ts

1. Pick your breakup turf carefully so as to minimize sharp objects and hard objects. Both of these types of things can be used on you in a fit of anger or despair. So, kitchens, craft rooms and work-rooms are out. For the same reasons, do not end it in a hardware store or kitchen specialty shop if you have to end it in public for some reason.

2. Do not put yourself into a situation where after you break up, you are forced to be near your ex for a period of time. So, do not do it while on a trip or a vacation. Do not do it while touring the Statue of Liberty. In other words, when picking the turf to break up on, you need a clean and private exit strategy for both of you.

3. If they start asking why you want to end it, don’t get caught up in a debate. If they can out argue you, you might be tempted to give it another try. It’s a trap! Stick to your guns, and wish them the best. After all, the sooner they find someone new, the sooner you can start double dating and, if you’re lucky and the sex was good, wife swapping.

Just remember, this is not really the end of your relationship, it is the opportunity for both of you to start new relationships.

Good luck!

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