Friday, September 9, 2011

Cooking Supper For Her – Do's and Don’ts



When you’re dating a woman, one of the toughest tests you’ll have to pass is the first time you make her dinner. It can be a wonderful intimate experience for both of you to kick back and truly relax. Unfortunately it can also lead to disaster very easily. Without being overly specific, these simple tips should help you get through that event.

The easiest cop out is to just order in. Pay attention to what she orders on previous dates, and try to build around that when you order in. It might lack the “home-cooked” element that girls like, but it’s not a deal breaker. However, if you do feel like you’re a good cook, here are some dos and don'ts:


Good Things To Do

Unless your date does not like wine, or does not drink at all, wine is a good choice. It shows sophistication, and at the same time shows her that you can do more than just guzzle beer. Pick something appropriate. A red like a Merlot or Cabernet sauvignon for red meats, or a white, like pinot grigio, chardonnay, or sauvignon blanc for chicken or fish. And do not cheap out or go too expensive. Something in the $12.00 to $20.00 a bottle range for a dinner date will likely prove sufficient, and will be acceptable even if she has a more educated pallet than you do.

For appetizers, consider raw oysters (be careful here because many women cannot stomach raw – ask first) – they aren’t aphrodisiacs, but have long been thought to be so because of the incredible nutritional value they have.

A simple stir fry is one of my favorite meals. You prep the ingredients in advance, and the meal will be totally cooked in 15 minutes. Cut the meat that you have selected into 1" cubes. Fry them in a couple of tablespoons of light oil for 3 to 5 minutes lightly seasoning with salt and pepper. Add in the pre-chopped harder to cook vegetables like carrots, string beans or celery or onions. And then after a few more minutes stir in softer vegetables like spring peas, zucchini or tomatoes. Add a touch of soy sauce, and you are done. The beauty about a stir-fry is that you do not have to start cooking until after she arrives. Perfect if she is habitually late, may be stuck in traffic, or may have to stay late at work a bit because she is into an important project.

Ask about any allergies or diet issues she might have – otherwise your dessert might have to wait until you get back from the emergency room. Keep an over the counter anti-histamine around for emergencies. Benedryl is one of the better known. Ask your pharmacist for another appropriate alternative to have on hand as well if benedryl is a problem.

Keep your portions small, especially if the food is inherently heavy. You do not want either one of you to be too bloated to have sex afterwards, if the evening turns out as planned.

Candles are always appreciated for dinner, as they add intimacy. You can even have several around your digs for atmosphere as well. Rap and Hip Hop are never acceptable for a date. Many classics are actually overtures that can be booming at times. Elevator music is too boring. Stay to ballads or light jazz. Nora Jones or Diana Krall are great choices as they tend towards sultry intimacy in their songs.


Menu Don’ts

Stay away from anything that you have not cooked before at least twice successfully. Stay way from meals that are too fussy or require you to be stirring constantly for long periods of time. You are looking for something where either the stove does all the work by itself, or else something that might require fussing but only for a few minutes maximum.

Stay away from curry, onions or garlic. They may be healthy, but they are not healthy for successful outcome of a dinner date. Always keep a bowl of mints in plain view for both of you to use after dinner.

Make sure that you have two complete settings of the same plates and silverware. If all your current dinner ware is composed of single piece rejects from your parents and former room mates, you can buy a four-piece setting of plates and silverware for about $40.00 total at any Wal-Mart.

Burping puts a damper on romance, so avoid serving beer or soda pop. Also do not over spice dinner, and avoid gas producing vegetables like cucumber.

Desert

You never want to load her down with so much food that if things do get sexy, she’s too full of food to really give it much effort. Serve something light like a sherbet, or a fruit cup.

Keep some whipped topping in the fridge in case the evening is an unqualified success.

Good luck and bon appetite!

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