Is Love Avoiding Me

 As I took a slow walk along the valley behind my house one sunny fourth of July last year, I was looking in awe at the dead trees, and the poison ivy that some people believe to be  flowers, and smelling the water in the creek (that I know comes from the sewers), when a bird pooed on my head. I thought “oh well” just another ordinary day. As I ran along, I bumped into a buddy of mine that I will call Stinky and please don't ask why I call him that, I think it is obvious. As we walked, I told him about the bird, and he replied “take me to the tree that you were standing under, its good luck”. If I had thought for one minute that it was good luck I would have found some dog dirt and rolled around in it, (as you may have figured Stinky really doesn’t have much of a social life, but then again, were two of a kind).

 Our biggest problem is communicating with women. Stinky can usually mouth a few comments, then he has to leave the scene. I’m a little more relaxed since I work with a lot of women anyway. I can usually have  somewhat of a conversation with them before I start to sweat and have any confidence suddenly elude me, then I have to politely excuse myself.

 Stinky feels that women's standards are too high when it comes to dating, however, I disagree. I really don't believe for a minute the women suggesting that he  have a shower before picking her up is considered “high slandered”. Stinky  might be the least washed fellow I know, but he is  one of the nicest (nicest not brightest). However, he does sometimes on occasion come up with pretty amazing idea's that make  more sense then not, but I'm not sure about this one. “We will join a Dating Site” he cried out. I said before sometimes he comes up with smart idea's but this wasn't one of those times. He proceeded to inform me that a friend at work gave him the idea(nice friend). “Is this the same friend that leaves deodorant and body wash on your desk?” I asked. “It sure is! He's a very thoughtful person,” (is he for real). Stinky said “My friend met a wonderful women on a dating site,” (what women?? the guy he's talking about is gay!) “Why would your homosexual friend use a dating site to meet women?” I asked, “I think your getting in over your head”. In the end, and after weeks of hiding from  Stinky and his crazy idea, I finally decided to give in just to humor him.

  As I tried to sleep that night, all I could think about was the last date I had, which ended in complete disaster for me. I’m sure the woman I'll call “hungry”, hadn’t eaten in a  few days  prior to our date and she must have thought I had a big trust fund or something! After she had consumed several finger sandwiches as well as several other side dishes, expensive wine and the entree of lamb chops, I checked the balance in my bank account, then to my horror she demanded we order desert! “Desert!?” I quickly reminded her that this was not an all you can eat buffet, she then  jumped up called me things I've never heard before and made her way to the door. Like the desperate person I am, I ran after her and asked if she would like to see me again, at which time she beat me with her hand bag (I guess that meant no!). So I went back to the table and sat by myself looking at the bill she had run up and wondered if I would be able to get lots of overtime at work next week to pay for it.

  I started to have a lot of doubts about joining a dating site, but since my best friend was very excited about it (and knowing he would do anything for me), I decided to go through with it. It turned out to be the best move that we had ever made. Stinky and I both joined a Dating Site, and it wasn’t long before we had  responses from some beautiful ladies. We were both very worried and excited to think that we might no longer have to prop up blowup dolls on our couches so the neighbors would see the silhouette and think we actually had lives. Stinky asked me “what should I do to get ready?”I said “just get in the shower and don't forget to turn the water on, use that bar of soap (you only had it for whole year) and scrub your troubles  down the drain”, (as well as the dirt and body odor of course). We double dated that evening to support each other, and we had a wonderful time. It was a standard dinner and dancing date, but it just went so well. Stinky took me aside and declared that this was the woman of his dreams. I gave him a bear hug, and said “follow your heart,” and he did. She seemed to take to him as well, surprisingly!

 Well I don't call him Stinky anymore, (no one does now that he has learned  basic  hygiene). He is and always will be, my best friend. Henry is still with his special woman that he met on that dating site. This was several years ago and after dating for two years, they tied the knot. They had two children and are expecting another any time now. As for me, it took a little longer, but I finally found my life partner, and we are expecting our first child soon. Life is great and it keeps getting better!

 Its true what they say, there's somebody for everyone. All you have to do is look in the right place and you'll find them. In many cases, it takes a nudge from someone who cares about you to get you going in the right direction . Life is too short and precious to spend it alone, wondering what your life would be like if you had done something to find that special person. So if you want to be happy then take my advice, and get off your ass and go for it.

  Hey, if Stinky and I can do it, so can you! There are so many dating sites out there that you might think you'll never find the right one, but I'll give you a tip, this is the site that me and Stinky used to find the best sites for us and in our opinion its the best place to find dating sites. So if you are tired of being lonely and want someone to be your life companion well just follow this link, it will be the best move you ever make.

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Maintaining A Healthy Relationship

It appears to me that a lot of  couples these days, forget who they started out being.Many couples forget their roots. After being together for a  few years or more they seem to lose that friendship that once bonded them together. Why is that?  Do we really change all that much?  I don't think so. So why the drift? The truth is we just get too comfortable, and no longer put forth  the effort  that we did in the beginning. To fix it, we have to inject new life into the mix.

You should reflect on your relationship and what has changed—you will likely find that you had a lot more intimacy in the early days of your relationship. This would include more phone calls, texting, touching, kissing and other endearments . Those early connections not only moved the relationship forward initially, they are also instrumental in keeping the relationship fresh now.  It all used to come so easy with the excitement of having a new partner - do we have to let that excitement die? For a long term relationship to succeed for the long term, a lot of work is required from both parties.  Stress is the usual place to put the blame, but that is not always applicable.  All these issues were probably the same ones we've  dealt with in the past that made us closer in the first place.

We fall into a pattern- we get lazy. We get into our comfort zone, and let things deteriorate past the point of no return. Men might check out other women and make complementary comments about them, all the while forgetting to compliment the one they are with.  Women might take a look at the cute butt of some hot guy, and romanticize about them. The issue is that we start to neglect each other in small ways that end up being very significant in the long run. We start to feel less adequate - less attractive. Many times we do not want to bring up each small issue,for fear of looking like a nit picker, but the result is a cascading failure of the relationship as small issues continue to be swept under the carpet. Both men and women need to be fearless in expressing their disapproval, and faultless in absorbing and trying to understand the complaints.  We need to always be aware of our partners feelings - to build a lifelong romance takes work, commitment, understanding and tolerance of each others viewpoints. Here are a few things we can do to make our relationships stay healthy:

1) Go out of your way to complement your partner each day. It will make both of you feel good.
2) Love them and tell them that you love them. Never force them to assume that you love them
3) Men, stop ogling—there's  no harm in looking, but lets get real here, is it necessary to ogle at every pretty face you see when you got the best thing right next to you. And yes, this goes for women also.
4)  Honesty.....no one likes to be lied to so why do it. Tell each other everything, it will produce conversation
5) Have some alone time....every day make a little time whether its just a stroll, or snuggling up on the sofa to watch a movie
6) Communicate- tell your partner how you feel, and work things out before they become worse than they are.
7) Always start your day off with a kiss, and a hug, and a good morning- it starts your day off on a positive note, and it feels real good too.
8) Be relaxed and do not be afraid of public displays of affection – some public kissing and tenderness will exhibit to the world how you care about your partner and broadcast to them that you love them and want to make sure that everyone knows it
9) Make sure that you smile and take life as the fun adventure that it is meant to be. You may think that frowning and being serious all the time is a way to get ahead in life, but in actual fact it works against you in your personal life, your relationships and in your professional business life as well.
10)  Never go to bed angry – talk it out and work it out – the best thing for a relationship is a kiss before you go to sleep. The second best thing is sex before you go to sleep. You cannot have the second without the first.

Relationships all have their ups, and downs, but if you have heart, and desire to make it work it will blossom into something special. So, don't let that spark creep away- follow the above rules, and create some of your own a long the way....just have fun if you can dream about it then you can achieve it...

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