Chinese Dating Sites

If a relationship involves two Chinese people, they are well aware of Chinese social conventions. However, if one partner is not Chinese, conflicts are inevitable and need to be discussed upfront before they become an issue.

The following are some examples of how Chinese people perceive dating situations differently:

Chinese women are normally taught to be a bit subservient before they are married, and expect the man to initiate everything. In Chinese culture the men still chase the women, and women expect them to lead when it comes to starting a relationship.

When talking to a Chinese woman on a dating site, always be polite and show respect.

Also remember that, in China, health and salary are not considered to be private issues and are expected to be discussed openly and freely.

Most women in China marry at an early age and Chinese men find it a little strange for women to be in their thirty's and still single. Older single women are more likely to jump at a dating opportunity because they are normally shunned by Chinese men to some extent. Women who have been divorced or widowed are often considered invisible on the dating scene and will usually welcome the attention.

In China education is very important and Chinese men and women are usually more interested in the education level and degrees one might possess than most cultures are.

Another very important thing to Chinese women is financial security, they believe that financial status and stability are very important for a healthy stable relationship.

A big majority of Chinese people who have a good command of the English language are usually well educated. Those who are not probably have never had the opportunity to learn, so a little patience will make it a little easier for them to learn, remember patience is a virtue.

Since religion was banned in China under the reign of chairman Mao, many people in China do not have a practicing religion.

China is pretty much a male dominated society, so the man is expected to pay for everything on a date, this includes dinner, movies, theatre, snacks and, if needed, taxis.

Chinese people usually date with the idea of starting a long term relationship. Dating for fun or for casual sex is not normally something that they do.

Many Chinese people will avoid drinking alcohol, so it would be wise not to suggest stopping for a drink on your first date, instead it would be a better idea to suggest lunch or maybe a coffee or tea.

Do not have any expectations of mainland Chinese people showing up for a date on time. It is not in the culture..

Chinese people will show that they like you by offering to help you. You will find that they will feel obligated to help with dishes or even help with small bits of maintenance around the house. It is how they show affection.

Chinese people are more aware of their health than most other cultures. They not only take care of their own health, but they will freely offer advice on yours as well. If you are sick, they will show love and respect by offering to help you out.

Chinese people are not into public displays of affection, to the point that you may not even realize that they are in love with you. They are unlikely to say, “I love you”.

Being more aware of Chinese versus Western cultural norms should help you when interacting with Chinese people in general, but especially so in a dating or relationship situation.

Hopefully this article will help you in your relationships with Chinese people. Attentive and educated Chinese men and women would love to meet you so just follow the link below.

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Good Ways to Break Up

Most relationships end. If they do not end entirely, they usually change from erotic love  (lovers) to fraternal love (just friends). In any event, telling someone that you do not want to be exclusive with them, or you are no longer interested in them sexually can be difficult. You see this idea played out in many movies.

Back to the point of this diatribe; if you are going to be good at getting into many relationships, you have to be just as good at getting out of them. For some reason, people getting into relationships just never figure the odds that you have to get out of most of them. Since the average person now-a-days has about 8 or 9 intimate relationships before settling down, that means that if you have 9 relationships before forming a permanent bond with someone, it means that you had to have ended 8 of them. Putting it mathematically, if R = the number of relationships that you start, then R-1 is the number of relationships that you had to end. OUCH!


Good Break Up Tips

1. Do It Somewhere Private, Preferably Their Place

If it is difficult to do it at their place (which is the best place), then do it in some reasonably quiet place close to their place. The main reason is that they will likely be distraught afterwards and are in no condition to drive. Keeping it in a relatively quiet place will minimize embarrassment, both for them for being jilted, and for you if they make a scene.

2. Do it on Friday

This is best because it gives them time to get used to the idea before having to face the concentration that most jobs require. Relationships are one of the most disruptive things to productivity at work. Productivity goes down when you start a relationship. Productivity takes a tail spin when a relationship is ended. If they are border-line at their job for whatever reason, then the break up can lead to termination, thus adding to your guilt load.

3. Keep It Short And Give Them Space

It is actually less painful to break up if it is done quickly. Keep it short, and do not allow it to drag into hours of trying to defend your decision. If you are breaking up because you have found someone new, do not rub it in their face later by being seen almost immediately in all your old haunts with the new love of your life.


Bad Break Up Don’ts

1. Pick your breakup turf carefully so as to minimize sharp objects and hard objects. Both of these types of things can be used on you in a fit of anger or despair. So, kitchens, craft rooms and work-rooms are out. For the same reasons, do not end it in a hardware store or kitchen specialty shop if you have to end it in public for some reason.

2. Do not put yourself into a situation where after you break up, you are forced to be near your ex for a period of time. So, do not do it while on a trip or a vacation. Do not do it while touring the Statue of Liberty. In other words, when picking the turf to break up on, you need a clean and private exit strategy for both of you.

3. If they start asking why you want to end it, don’t get caught up in a debate. If they can out argue you, you might be tempted to give it another try. It’s a trap! Stick to your guns, and wish them the best. After all, the sooner they find someone new, the sooner you can start double dating and, if you’re lucky and the sex was good, wife swapping.

Just remember, this is not really the end of your relationship, it is the opportunity for both of you to start new relationships.

Good luck!

For more advice articles, check out the following links:

Relationships Advice for Men


Relationships Advice for Women





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